Colossians 3:25 Season 2 Episode 50
Joy’s Notes:
Col 3:25
1. “But if you do what is wrong, you will be paid back for the wrong you have done.
2. For God has no favorites.”
(Imagine a good parent saying this to His children) this would bring a sense of security
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God is a good parent & will punish his child when needed— & not look the other way because he favors that child over me!!!
2. God loves everyone equally. NOTHING= i can do to make God love me MORE. NOTHING= I can do that’ll make God love me LESS
• “Love is unconditional, favoritism is not. 👉 Favoritism depends upon children behaving in ways that gratifies parents.
LOVE= unconditional
FAVORITISM= conditional on behavior
• favoritism is a GENERATIONAL sin!!
• The enemy wants to keep it under the radar because this SIN cuts right to the CORE OF A CHILDS IDENTITY!!!
• For the Only-child- child competing w/other “siblings” (parents job, friends, $, etc)
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Favoritism breeds rejection in heart of a child.
• 4 ways favoritism (REJECTION by a parent) damages children:
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1. They believe they’re inherently flawed • they feel anger, defeate, depression, low self-esteem and unmotivated.
•believe the lie they’re useless, worthless & not precious in Gods sight
Every child craves to be:
SEEN-SOOTHED-SAFE
SECURE
2. They believe they’re Incompetent :
• They think that nothing they do is ever enough.
• This lie Can change trajectory of child’s future.
3. They’re prone to become people pleasers or isolaters.
• They tend to struggle relationally
4. They’ll perceive God to be a God of favorites, too.
• (God loves her/him, but not me!) “I haven’t earned or deserve His love”
*REMEMBER: if satan can steal my confidence he can steal my calling !
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• Identity breeds confidence
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• Parents who exclusively FAVOR one child are likely looking to these children to FILL VOIDS they sense inside themselves.
Helpful tips to break free from the “favoritism-trap
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1. Love my child with God’s love.
2. Verbally point out the gifts and talents God has given my child.
3. Speak hope over my child
4. Accept my child for who she/he is.
5. Point my child to the vision & destiny God has for her life.
6. Study God’s character and reflect Him to my child.
7. Pray for my children.
8. NOW LOOK IN THE MIRROR & say this to the inner child looking back at you.
👉Allow God to heal the inner child within
I am participating in the GENERATIONAL-SIN of FAVORITISM when I favor others over my own inner child🤯
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• GENERATIONAL Favoritism In a family
Issac married Rebekah.
Rebekah loved Jacob more than her other twin son, Esau.
👉 Rebekah loved that Jacob cooked, etc,
(As a result, great discord & pain & unhealthy relationship between both sons occurred)
Jacob grew up & had children & had a “favorite” son named Joseph
Gen 37:3p
“ Jacob loved Joseph more than any of his other children because Joseph had been born to him in his old age.”
As a result: “Jacobs brothers HATED Joseph because their Father loved Jacob more than the rest of them. They couldn’t say a kind word to him.”
The FAVORED-CHILD:
⁃ Jacob had an “INFLATED” view of himself
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• REJECTION IS:
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1. the most common emotional wound
AND
2. the most painful emotional wound
FACTS:
👉 The same areas of our brain are activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain.
This is why many ADDICTIONS form from root of rejection.
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We find ourselves looking for a means to numb the physiological and emotional pain brought on by the rejection
👉 Being asked to recall a recent rejection made people score significantly lower on subsequent IQ tests.
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Woman at the well—>
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One the greatest MISUNDERSTOOD &
MISREPRESENTED characters in ALL the Bible:
• rejected 5x
• She was not a promiscuous woman but a rejected woman!
• “Dear John“ letter 5x
• She possibly sinned in her 6th relationship due to using it as a way to “cope/numb out” from root of resection.
Isaiah 5:18
“What sorrow for those who drag their sins behind them with ropes made of lies, who drag wickedness behind them like a cart!
A rope made of FACTS & LIES
(Facts are not truths!)
Satan will use “facts” to reinstate & remind us that the rejection was real; while God will use TRUTH to remind us that “even-though” we’ve been rejected by man— we are NOT rejected by our Maker! He finds us precious, valuable, worthy & wonderfully made
—-> He has no favorites!!! Your REJECTION is over!
“Christmas is about UNDOING loneliness”
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JOSEPH STORY:
GEN 50:19-21
(When I NOW know my daddy has NO favorites….)
⁃ Joseph- “what you intended for harm, God meant for good!” (PROMISE) Can I judge you (PAYBACK)”?
👉 My choice: PAYBACK or PROMISE?
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…But I can’t have both
⁃ Joseph refused to get BITTER so that God could make Him BETTER.
• Joseph viewed brothers rejection NOT as a STUMBLING-BLOCK but a STEPPING-STONE
He KNEW His God had no favorites & would discipline them if they didn’t repent
👉👉👉His job wasn’t TO GIVE PAYBACK but TO RECEIVE PROMISE
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PROMISE or PAYBACK
BLESSING or BITTERNESS
BETTER or BITTER